Have had a fairly dramatically bad few days. On Thursday I had a very strange half hour episode of pain and feeling like my stomach might blow up, but then it went away.
Then on Friday I had four hours of pretty bad cramps, had to go to bed to wait for them to wear off.
Saturday and Sunday were OK, then Monday I woke up in pain, went to bathroom after breakfast and then felt better, but then was back in pain in the afternoon.
On Tuesday I was constipated and stomach felt very tight, and then today I'm still blocked up and feeling bluerggh.
So that was my week.
I live in a small flat in a converted house, and you can hear quite a lot of what goes on in the flat upstairs, which is inhabited by a single chap, probably about my age.
For his week, he has had several nights out, had his girlfriend stay overnight a couple of times, talked to his friends numerous times on the phone, and laughed more in an hour than I have in the past five years.
But I deserve this, right? I should be able to cope, life isn't fair, take the lemons that you're given and make lemonade?
Easier said than done though. Why does guy upstairs get such an easy life? What in hell did I do to deserve this anyhow?
Hi,
My son has had different tests for two years (including all the poking around and embarassing ones) to try and discover what is causing his four times a day diaorriah. The conclusion is IBS and he's to get on with it. He was told to get on with whatever it is two years ago. He did try. He tried getting into school every day and for six months had virtually non-stop runs. He was told he had to go in in this condition. No-one was listening to me and they said he just didn't want to go.
He is very bright and was taking 10 GCSE's. He tried very hard when he felt well enough to attend and exceeded expectations. The school was willing to supply home tutoring but only if his consultant gave the t opinion that that is what was required.
Despite begging and pleading and stating the fact that the unknown condition was ruining his life, I was completely ignored and told he had to go to school pooing himself and that it was in his head because he was nervous and stressed. Unbelievable dont you think? No, this is how we were treated.
He had to leave school early without taking any exams because he had missed so many lessons and found out he had been dropped from his Science GCSE while in the middle of revising for it at home. He cried!!
He started college when the symptoms seemed to subside after being prescribed medication for bile-salt malabsorption only to find that after doing all his course-work the pooing came back and then they did a test and discovered he did not have what he was being treated for.
He had to leave college in February without taking one exam. He was to gotoday but as usual, he is pooing for England. He hates me talking about it to people and I worry for his future and so I babble, terrified of what the hell will become of him and will he ever be able to live a normal life i.e. Go out for the evening.
He hasn't been out since February and then he only went occasionally. He never talks about the future and he doesn't seem to care anymore. He doesn't drink. smoke or indulge in substance abuse.
He is 17 and lonely. He thinks it is his diet and I've just read your comments and I'm going to print them off and show him. I've actually laughed. He is so fed up perhaps he might snicker a little. Thank you so much for your humour. A lot of what you say he will be able to relate to with regard to other people's attitudes.
Unfortunately I have been guilty of the Oh for God's sake just try and get on with it syndrome when at the end of my tether and gnashing my brain thinking of the 10 GCSE's he could have taken if the bloody consultant had taken him seriously and he wouldn't have felt invisible and as though he was a kid who just didn't want to bother.
Many thanks, Jan.
i know what you mean i live with my boyfriend and he must also feel bad becuase we cant do much and in a way seeing him happy and well makes me want to cry all the time. i just wish we could go and do that and paln things in advance without any worries. i wish it was that easy but its not. i wish some miricle doctor would come out with a soloution for this ibs and cure it once and forall